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I was born and grew up in Germany with two younger siblings and parents who loved us very much. My parents, both children during the second world war, longed for a life of harmony and happiness. As the oldest, I learned to play the role of fulfilling their longing in many ways. And as we were all artistically talented, we each found our own path to make our parents happy and proud of us… I grew up thinking we had a really happy childhood.

Then, during high school, a relative I was very close to suddenly became silent and withdrawn, increasingly depressed and then even anorexic. She started to see a therapist, but her condition didn’t change. For the first time in my life I felt helpless…

I didn’t know how to respond to this challenge. It felt like I was supposed to do something to restore happiness in some way, but didn’t know how. I longed to understand what had caused her to feel this way and began searching for answers, but only found a few pieces to the puzzle. When she finally healed and started to laugh again, it was a mystery I didn’t fully understand.

During those high school years I also followed my love for music and studied violin and classical singing. After finishing Gymnasium, my desire to understand human nature brought me to study Psychology and Anthropology for a year, but the University structure left me confused and dissatisfied… and my passion for art emerged. I switched to study abstract painting at Art Academies in Hamburg, New York and Düsseldorf. For almost 10 years I completely dedicated my life to making art.

In 1989 I moved with my high school sweetheart and first husband, who was now an art dealer, to the US. After the birth of our second daughter, in 1992, I was faced with a new challenge, confronted with a new level of helplessness as I witnessed our first daughter acting out in inexplicable anger against her newborn baby sister. For the first time I knew I needed help. I pulled away from my painting studio. 

Absorbed with finding ways to become a better mother and fascinated by childhood psychology, I started therapy and created a parent coaching group. Soon I was also drawn to explore healing work, metaphysics and channeled information.

The next decade was full of new discoveries, learning and growing. I began to practice healing arts, first with Reiki, which soon led me to Shamanic Healing through Soul Retrievals. Next I learned Hypnosis. I went through a great deal of inner growth and change as my marriage came apart. True to my role, I focused on creating the most loving separation I could imagine.

After living through seven years of predominantly single parenting, my wonderful second husband joined our little family in 2002. During that time I was doing healing work on the side, still thinking I had to look for a “proper” job.

In May of 2003 an epiphany gave me the clarity to open Free Soul, my private practice for healing and transformation work.

In 2004 I found a powerful cellular healing work called the Journey and becamean accredited Journey Practitioner in 2006. What an amazingly rich learning experience that was! The Journey became my primary healing modality for 6 years. I started traveling to Germany twice a year and grew a significant client base in Hamburg.

In 2011 a fellow Journey Practitioner introduced me to FutureVisioning™,

which I experienced as an even more deeply transformative work.  After a short custom training period that allowed me to clear up some significant old prosperity blockages, my practice virtually exploded. In November of 2011 I entered a mentorship program with the founder of this work. Just one month earlier my father had died after two years of pain and illness.

Through FutureVisioning I was also introduced to Lazaris, the channeled, nonphysical being, who was the source of knowledge and inspiration behind this work. It was the beginning of a most profound new relationship for me. Lazaris delivers such a wealth and depth of wisdom and understanding in our human nature, that it initially often boggled my mind. To this day I consider Lazaris my most beloved teacher.

Over the next three years I was one of the select few practitioners in the world,

offering the formidable process of FutureVisioning™, which at the time I considered to be the most powerful personal healing and growth work I knew. I also created a program in Germany to train a first pioneering group of practitioners in this work. They went on to making this work more widely available in Germany under the names of:  FutureV, Futuring and FutureVisioning.

In the spring of 2014 several fundamental disagreements erupted between me and my mentor, differences that had been buried by my old need to protect peace and harmony above everything else. Besieged by his relentless efforts to assault my point of view and deny my difference of opinion, I had to birth the courage to trust my own perceptions and choices, to stand up for my beliefs, and to oppose an authority figure I had believed in. I had never dared to do this in my entire life. In June I decided to leave the FutureVisioning group.

That decision liberated me in many ways. But it also catapulted me into a phase of prolonged questioning and a desire to redefine what kind of client relationship it was that I wanted to engage in and what tools I wanted to work with. As much as I loved the FutureVisioning work, it started to feel tainted.

As it turned out I entered a longer period of unwinding than I had anticipated. Soon I needed to be very present for my mother’s sudden illness. She died five days after I arrived in Hamburg in October that same year. During the emotional transition into parentless life questions emerged about what it meant to fill the role of the elder in our family and how to allow for an adjustment in the relationship with my two siblings. But most absorbing for all of us was the time consuming task to resolve all the many inheritance questions back in Germany.

The next event in this extended phase of letting go was the sale of our home in the summer of 2015. As the plunge in the US housing market left us without any remaining assets, we decided to use the following year as a creative opportunity to also reexamine our values around living environments, and to explore future models for intentional community living.

In my continued exploration of different reality creation models, my husband Jimmy and I decided to experience another extraordinary set of tools to create our life with. Avatar. This time it was my oldest daughter whose inspiration we followed. I was struck by the enormous clarity, ease and speed in the application of the Avatar tools, and the palpable sense of a compassionate worldwide community. There was an astonishing absence of indulging in emotional drama, and an exhilarating freedom to explore the impact of my own beliefs on my life. Avatar is the most systematically organized, complete school of highly effective reality creation and personal well-being tools I have yet encountered.

After finally settling in the Berkshires during the Summer of 2016,

a last life challenge took me yet again into a new direction. My ex-husband had been diagnosed with Alzheimers in April. Jimmy and I decided to invite him to live with us, so we could support him in applying a new, ground breaking treatment for his Alzheimer condition. Soon my care giving absorbed every hour of the day and left no room to even contemplate searching for a new focus in my private work with clients. He stayed with us for over 9 months.

After returning from Europe in the summer of 2017, I was still in need of rebalancing and grounding my life. I felt a desire to spend a lot of time in nature and began working with a garden designer. What an amazingly healing experience!

In January 2018 I found the inspiration I had been looking for during the previous three years and began creating my program for Crossroads Coaching and later for Vision Weavers. But instead of putting my energy into bringing these programs out into the world, I discovered another treasure trove of channeled information that I became absorbed in. I learned about our soul’s journey and evolution through it’s entire arc of incarnations and

decided to spend another summer and fall gardening, so that I could continue to read and study this material. I continued to follow the breadcrumbs... I January 2019 I began holding our High Intention Circles. More group events will follow throughout the year, and new material is being added to my new website all the time.